“Kesha, rich and famous: no one believes she was raped.
16 year old girl, raped by 33 men with a video to prove it: no one believes she was raped.
Woman, was about to be raped, manages to stab a pen in the neck of the rapist and runs to the police: is arrested for excessive self defence, as the rapist died.
Aileen Wuornos, prostitute: is brutally raped, kills the rapist, is arrested and killed legally by the state.
Delegate in Brazil rapes his own granddaughter, Judge acquits because she should have fought harder against the rapist.
You will never respect or believe any of us. You will never understand that many of us would rather die then be raped, you think rape is sex, therefore it can’t be that bad, only a little violent. You don’t understand that to be raped is to have your soul killed, your mind murdered, taking away everything that makes you human. It’s feeling like a walking corpse. It doesn’t matter what country your from, how famous you are, how much money you have, the proof, the reports of 10, 20 different women about the same man, it doesn’t matter. Women are objects for men to use, be it here or at the ends of the world.They will always say that women resist too little or too much. Patriarchy is universal.” – Carol Wojtyla
I read this today, and it really touched me. I can’t possibly understand why there is any difficulty in understanding that no does in fact, mean no. I also have trouble understanding why one would believe that a woman is lying about being raped. Being raped is something no woman wants to talk about, many don’t have the strength to tell a soul after it has happened. But if we continue to regard them as “violent acts of sex” and not the dehumanising act that they truly are, all women will lose the strength to speak up and fight for their rights.
What is rape culture though?
“It’s situations in which sexual assault, rape, and general violence are ignored, trivialized, normalized, or made into jokes.” –Shannon Ridgway
- Pop music that tells women “you know you want it” because of these “blurred lines” (of consent).
- Calling college students who have the courage to report their rapes liars.
- Only 3% of rapists ever serving a day in jail.
- Women feeling less safe walking the streets at night than men do.
- Rape jokes – and people who defend them.
And the list goes on and on… It’s embedded so deeply into our culture that many don’t see the harm is causes. So all I ask is thing about this situation, and what you can do to make sure it gets better.
And as Tupac once said:
“Since we all came from a women, got our name from a women, and our game from a women. I wonder why we take from women, why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think its time we killed for our women, be real to our women, try to heal our women, cause if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies that will hate the ladies, who make the babies. And since a man can’t make one he has no right to tell a women when and where to create one”
What are your comments?